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Therapy for Relationship Issues

Relationships are important. Especially the one you have with yourself.

Pink spiral staircase symbolizing relationship issues spiraling into anxiety and getting therapy to unravel relationship patterns

As time goes by, you’ve noticed the same issues coming up in romantic relationships, friendships or with co-workers.

Why is this so hard?

You cognitively get how you could improve a relationship, “okay, I need to set a boundary,” but then the overwhelm, worry, and guilt overcome you. 

We are often unconsciously repeating patterns from past relationships. 

Relationship patterns can look like:

Feeling not good enough

Some of the origins of feeling not good enough are experiencing a lot of criticism, being blamed before being asked, being compared to others, or having impossible expectations set. 

Then:  “It looks like you didn’t even clean it, You’re lazy, You are always the slowest to turn in your work.”

Now: “I don’t know what is wrong with me, of course they don’t want to be with me”

People pleasing/caretaking

Some of the origins of people pleasing behaviors are being praised for being obedient, mediating other’s disagreements, or giving voice to other people’s preferences instead of your own. 

Then: “This is what mom would want me to wear, this will make her so happy.”

Now: “I’ve done everything they wanted, why are they being so distant.”

Conflict avoidance

Some of the origins of conflict avoidance are experiencing one-sided disagreements, getting the silent treatment, or being berated about an issue.

Then: “You did this, you always mess things up once I have them where I want them!” (door slamming shut)

Now: “No matter what I say, they won’t listen, so why bother.”

At the time, these patterns worked to keep relationships on an even keel.

Now they feel like a never ending cycle, making it hard to believe that relationships are worth it at all.

Where do these patterns come from?

From all around us, our family dynamic, societal expectations, religious beliefs… 

We’re interconnected and shaped by all of these

You don’t have to keep fighting against people’s version of you.

There’s wisdom within you. 

Let’s listen to it. 

Therapy for relationship patterns in Dallas and Austin Texas

Together we will:

  • Gain insight into how you learned how to attach/connect with people

  • See your past relationships clearly

  • Understand how your body holds past relationship patterns

  • Get to know the parts of you that are apprehensive about letting go of these patterns

  • Get clarity about your, values, beliefs, and identity 

Therapy for relationship patterns in Bishop Arts District Dallas 75208

It’s possible to:

  • Be yourself while staying connected to your people.

  • Know and create the types of relationships you want

  • Care for yourself the way you care for others

  • Feel good about yourself and your relationships

How Therapy Works

  • Step 1: Get in touch today.

    Contact me to schedule a free 15-minute phone consultation. Let’s chat to see if this is a fitting relationship to do the work you want to do.

  • Step 2: First therapy session.

    We’ll talk about your story, getting to know your past and present related to current reasons for coming to therapy.

  • Step 3:  Set up regular sessions.

    Re-discover yourself. Go inward and cultivate the life you want.